Wednesday, June 14, 2017
Why do you do the things you do and/or say? What motivates you?
These questions sound simple, but they aren't because they cause you to dig deeper in yourself.
When we dig a hole it gets darker the more you dig into it. The same goes for ourselves. I'm not saying that everyone is dark and evil so please don't misunderstand what I'm writing.
I am stating that everyone has bumps and bruises inside and if you don't allow Jesus to touch those areas they can hurt people around you. Like a stone that is dropped in the water the effects of our actions cause a ripple effect that can create waves for years, and in some cases, generations.
My grandmother is over 100 years old. She has seen a lot in her lifetime and still remembers all of it. Anytime that Grandma was offended and/or hurt by someone she ingrained it in her head. When I have heard her share about her past it's like she is reliving it all over again. The pain has never subsided. She has never forgiven even when the person who offended her is gone.
It's hard to believe that offenses from our past can color the way we hear and see things. When you've been hurt severely it's easy to react when someone flinches. Or when there's a subject that you want to talk about and the other person gets their guard up like the Wall of China.
Forgiveness goes so much deeper than we realize. It can even poison loved ones near you. Often, those are the ones that get hurt the most from us.
Here's another way to look at it. When a fisherman puts the strongest line in the water with the bait attached to the hook does the fish ever let go? When a fish latches onto the bait it doesn't want to let go no matter what, and that is why the fisherman gets the fish. When we don't forgive we are latched onto the hook struggling to get free, but the past is reeling us into the boat.
It's only with God's divine help that we can cut the line because the fish isn't strong enough to do it by itself.
There was a time when I was so angry at someone that we didn't speak for years. Both of us were furious and very hurt with each other. I tried to hold it in but I couldn't anymore. Even when others begged us to speak I refused because I thought our friendship was dead...Thank God...I was wrong!
God revived our friendship and healed our wounds. And you know what, our relationship is better than ever! It is not the same as it was before because we are more honest with each other now.
Now how did we do it? She and I agreed not to even talk about our sides of the story because they didn't matter anymore. They're the past!
When something is in the past it's in the past, period. Have you ever been in an argument before and after a while you didn't even remember what you're fighting about anymore? It's in the past.
I know you have been hurt. Here's the question though. Which hurts worse? What they did or what you're doing to yourself now because of it?!
If you are reliving the hurt over and over stop! It won't make it better. Instead, it will make you feel worse!
Did you know that a synonym for grudge is stew? What is a stew? It means "to cook food by simmering or boiling." What are you simmering? What ingredients are in your pot?
If you're still angry about something you are simmering, or maybe, boiling your pot to the point that it's about to boil over; Let Jesus help and give Him the pot. After all, who's a better cook?! :-)
Jesus forgives us every time we mess up because He doesn't want anything and anyone keeping us apart from each other. He was beaten up, insulted, people tried to manipulate Him, (remember when He drew in the sand when the scribes and Pharisees tried to trick Him [John 8:1-11]),...
And...Jesus never became bitter...isn't that amazing!
God has given us the same tools that He used Himself to forgive others. Instead of holding onto the pain, and starting to simmer, He let...it...go!
How do you release it? You ask Jesus to help you release your burdens.
"Come to me all who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light." (Matthew 11:28-30 NIV)
Ask Christ to set you free. He wants to, been waiting for you, loves you, and will never forget you! :-)
May this message be a Blessing in your lives and mine! :-)