Tonight as I was holding my dog in my lap my mind began to think about a few things...
Relationships. How much work they take, and what it means to be in them.
It means accepting people for who they are: the good And the bad.
It is realizing that the bumps that are going on today are just bumps and not potholes.
It is forgiving others, and at times even yourself, for the expectations that you have imagined in your relationship. What you think 'will' happen will not be the way you expect. Nothing can be planned out completely.
Take for example my puppy, who is really almost 7 years old but I call him puppy anyway. :-)
Sometimes he is the sweetest dog that you will ever meet. Attentive, loving, protective, loves to snuggle, lets me know when people are around.
He sounds like the best dog right? Let me tell you the rest about him. He steals food, sometimes barks incessantly, steals paper towels, rummages through the bathroom trash. He can be grouchy and nip at times. Sometimes he has an attitude. But, it doesn't matter. I love him anyway!
Because for me he is the best dog that I could ever ask for. 'That' is what matters! He is the best For Me!
Why is it easier to be more accepting of animals than people?!
Everyone that has been created has been given free will to make choices for themselves. What will I wear, what is my favorite color, etc. What about myself? What decisions have I made, what are some of my mistakes?
Maybe if you are like me at times in a relationship you may feel like you don't have a clue what you are doing and completely perplexed at times. At first in this relationship I was trying to be the best girlfriend that I can be...What exactly is that? Is there a definition?
I am realizing that the best girlfriend that I can be is being myself and not giving more or less than that.
Years ago I was inspired to write a book about "times and seasons" in our lives using cooking analogies called "Thyme and Seasonings". Tonight I thought about a couple more...
Imagine you have a beautiful piece of salmon, and for my vegetarian friends imagine a gorgeous butternut squash.
Salmon has a lot of scales. As delicious as it is, eating it with all of the scales on the fish will not be as appetizing. It is going to take a lot of work to get all of the scales removed from it. It will be worth it though right?!
Now back to the butternut squash. Nothing is as silky as a luscious butternut squash soup. Also, if you don't have the right equipment it can be difficult cutting and peeling it. If you do not have the correct knife and peeler you could have 'quite' the time getting the squash ready to roast in the oven. Believe me I Know.
I am going to call the 'bumps in the road' phase 'scaling a fish' or 'preparing butternut squash soup' instead.
The reason that I am going to change the name is because it will help remind me to look at the bigger goal of being together. Its forever right?!
So now, who cares if there are a few extra scales that are more challenging to remove than others. When I get frustrated instead I will stay focused on how wonderful the salmon will taste after it is cooked. I will remember how creamy and smooth butternut squash soup is supposed to taste when you take the first bite...Yum!
So, if you are like me, and you find yourself feeling stressed and/or overwhelmed remember the bigger goal...it's the 'soup' and the 'salmon that you are after...Right?!